Kelly,
The IRRRL requires the current deed holders to remain on the new loan. So that won't work. You will have to qualify for a standard VA which of course means a new funding fee and the typical credit and income qualifications.
So you first step is finding a lender/broker. I would suggest using one of the quality firms in our directory (link tap top right). They will walk you through the process.
Merry Christmas (I guess it's ok to say that now that Thanksgiving is over).
Clem Borkowski